From the title, you’re probably curious about what this post is going to be about. Am I asking you to be something you’re not? Yes and no! Well over the last week, I watched a TED Talk: It was actually played during one of my lectures and I took away a lesson I felt was necessary for you all to know.
Fake it till you become it! Are you ready! You know, when you begin to act in a certain way for example if you want to be or seem smart, you move around with the top ten achievers in your class, you spend break times in the library, you sit in front for lectures, you participate and want to answer all the questions. I wonder how many of you reading this is like that. If you are, let me know in the comments section. You find out that if you begin to act this way consistently over a period of time, saying you’re smart and acting like that, reading positive affirmations and speaking them over your life; very soon you’ll internalise this belief and you will be smart and will begin to see the results. Now, I’m not saying you weren’t before, whatever the reason may be, you have now realised that you’re intelligent and that you can achieve anything. That’s what we’ll be looking at today. – Faking it till you become it.
Often times, it’s scary; public speaking for example…I’ve been a very shy person and suffered from stage fright, not that I don’t anymore but I’ve started to apply this principle. Even if I’m scared, I take the stage, I seize the opportunity and after you always feel that sense of fulfilment like ‘gurl you did it!’ Soon enough, you’ll become accustomed to overcoming your fears and you’ll find out it wasn’t so bad….you’ll begin to get used to it.
I don’t know what your dream entails BUT are you doing what your dream requires. You want to be a motivational speaker or a fashion designer or an entrepreneur, what are you doing about it. Are you networking, attending events, putting yourself at the fore-front, pitching your business idea. Friends, it’s not easy, it takes a lot of courage. But that’s life and that’s the same way it is when you have a goal you want to achieve, there’s fear but like motivational speaker, Lisa Nichols, said “Hold fear in one hand and faith in another and just jump!” It’s so important that each day you step at the edge of your comfort zone and I mean edge…not the middle. Do the things that scare you. Take that bold step. Call that client. Pay for your domain. Start that blog. Register that company. Do that assignment. Whatever your dream requires, do it!
I mentioned earlier my fear of public speaking and how I’m learning to overcome that each day, participating more in tutorials in uni, debating, speaking up about issues I’m passionate about, meeting new people….It’s something I need since I want to coach and mentor young people. I need to be able to communicate effectively with them and that’s what I’m working on now.
It’s not easy balancing university and my side-hustle (Moty Inspires) and also setting aside ‘me time’ but it’s worth it! Sometimes in life, you have to take the extra step, go the extra mile, and put in the extra effort. It’s never going to be easy but it’s going to be fulfilling and it will lead you on to a life filled with success, happiness and purpose which I believe all of you seek for. That’s why you come here each day or each week- to receive the inspiration that is needed to live the life you were called to.
If you watch the TED Talk, Amy was talking about the car accident that she was involved in which led her to lose her IQ by two standard deviations and how doctors said she will never be able to finish school and earn a degree and live out the life she planned to. It wasn’t easy for her as she took pride in her intelligence and determination. But she summoned courage to reject cynicism and fear and faked it…. till she became it. She began reading even while on the hospital bed, putting the effort in, telling herself she could do it, doing her part and leaving the rest to God. She ended up going to Princeton and then Harvard. Today she is a successful social psychologist, author and lecturer.
We don’t all go through this route. We have our different challenges but one thing we can all summon is FAITH and HOPE and putting in the WORK. You’ve got to do it and you can! The world is waiting on your talent to be put to use. What are you waiting for?
Fake it till you become it!
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